Grief

Grief is part of my infertility process. I have to remind myself at times that I have a right to grieve not being able to have children, in a normal way. 
I found this quote in a card that I purchased for myself, years ago after a friend of mine passed away. It comforts me, and reminds me. 

We are all creatures
of this great earth -
interconnected in ways
beyond understanding.

Take elephants.
So big.
So strong.
And yet,
when a member
of the herd passes,
even elephants mourn.
They gather around.
extend their trunks,
and gently touch
the tusks
of their fallen friend.
It's their ritual.
It's how they heal.
And it's sad.
And it's beautiful.

So maybe
what we're trying to say
is that the world
doesn't expect you
to be fine with this.

Be how you need to be.
Mourn how you need to mourn.

And know that
you're thought of
with love.

-author unknown